Choosing a fertility specialists is a very personal decision. It’s important to do your homework. It’s not always a one-size fits all. Discuss what’s important to you and find someone who can best facilitate your needs.

These are the things I’d be looking for in my Fertility Specialist (not in any particular order of importance)

  • Good communication

    • Someone who will respond to my emails and calls. Answer all my questions. I accept that they may not be able to get back to me straight away, in the same hour or even day, but they will get back to me.
  • Up to date

    • I want them to be doing their best on keeping up with the latest evidence and research. There’s lots of ongoing research in fertility medicine and yes, they may not be aware of all latest developments. When they are not aware of something new, to be curious enough to look into it if I bring it up. I want them to be humble enough to admit they may not know something and open enough to look into it.
  • Collaborative

    • I’d make sure they are open enough to work through my case with other doctors, scientists, health care practitioners etc
  • Second opinion

    • Accept that I may seek a second opinion and not treat me any differently. It’s my right to do so.
  • Complimentary therapy

    • Will accept that I may use complimentary therapies and communicate with other practitioners about their plans for me. Keep each other in the loop.
  • Individual treatment

    • Will treat me as an individual. Tailor treatment to my needs.
  • Won’t give up on me

    • Won’t set me aside because my case is ‘too hard’. Will be my cheerleader when I need it most and stand with me as long as I choose.
  • Honesty

    • I expect them to always be honest with me. Always. I can deal with whatever comes my way.
  • My chances

    • Share with me success rates from their fertility unit. I accept that each unit may have different success rates. Its up to me to do the homework.
  • Qualified

    • That they are appropriately trained and qualified to do the job.
  • Referrals

    • Open to referring me to another doctor or unit if they cannot provide me with the treatment I need.
  • My options

    • Someone who gives me ALL options and guide me through them. I know it’s then up to ME to decide. I know that I can also change my mind and feel comfortable doing so.
  • Open to questions

    • I can ask them any question I want and not be afraid to do so.
  • Feedback

    • That they will welcome feedback. All doctors want to do the best they can by their patients, feedback is essential to facilitate this.
  • Ethos

    • Their personality and ethos matches mine. So we are on the same page.
  • Listen to me

    • That they are happy to listen to my needs, for me to take charge. I am my best advocate.
  • Wholistic approach

    • That they have a wholistic approach to my treatment. They want to know as much about me as possible. My job, my relationships, my stress levels. Why? Because they all impact on my health.
  • Share the science

    • Share with me scientific papers and research. Equally they will welcome me sharing information with them.
  • Explanations

    • Explain all my test results to me clearly to I fully understand.
  • Respect

    • Will respect my decisions.  It is ultimately my choice.

 

This would be my checklist. What would be on yours?